If you are like me you may have multiple children at different stages of development. We have three boys who are all experiencing life at those stages right now. One (our eldest) is despirate for independence and defying authority, one who still likes to fuss and complain. The other two are younger and are experiencing their own pitfalls, all surrounding what they want and why they cannot have it. Now many of us deal with the more then occasional tantrum from a toddler but what to do when it is the big guy doing the screaming… over TV?
This is one tantrum I was not expecting from our eldest son and was speechless when it occurred. It is not appropriate to put a nine year old in time out therefore other actions are needed. First I made sure to remain calm and not loose my temper, that was hard. As he is nine throwing a tantrum over TV was not OK. I took a deep breath and reminded him that this behavior was not ok and if he kept up with it he would be facing consequences. His consequences are to bed early (which is murder for him) or the opposite of what he wants, no TV. I also told him to take five minutes and calm down. The tantrum did not last long.
If this situation occurs (or any age-inappropriate outburst or demand) it is important to remain calm, allow a cooling off period, and reinforce that there are consequences for their actions. Children need know what their boundaries are so do not be afraid to show them. I must above all say, STICK TO YOUR WORDS. If you give a consequence you must must uphold that punishment regardless of the behavior that fallows.