How to get children to listen without using punishment

How to get children to listen without using punishment

  • June 11, 2013
  • Big Kids / Little Kids

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Get your children to listen to you

Your kids don’t listen?  He complains that he does not want to go to sleep?  She does not want to put her toys away?  It can be difficult sometimes to stay calm when they are testing your limits.  To keep from screaming and using punishment, here are a few communication techniques you can try to get your children to listen and do what you ask them to.

Use the paradoxal technique with humor

“Do not touch this delicious strawberry yogurt that I am going to eat for you.”  Surprise them by saying the opposite of what they expect from you.  You will probably see your child protest and reach for the yogurt!

Give choices, even if there is not really a choice  IMG_4050bis

Let your child think that they have a choice to preserve their sense of freedom: “Would you rather put your toys away now or after the bath?”  Very effective!  Who likes to take all of their choices taken away?  Giving choices like this make your child feel like they are in control of their life.

Distraction is key

“Come on, let’s read a story, let’s play.”  Sometimes an argument is not always necessary, instead redirect your child’s attention to something else and move on.

Put yourself at their level

Kneel down, put yourself at their height and look them in the eyes when you have something important to say.  Give them responsibility by making them understand that their cooperation is necessary: “Tonight I am very tired and stressed out.  I can not make it without your help”.  Encourage them to come up with a solution on their own.

 


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